I consider myself an unqualified life and relationship mentor, which basically means I lend a patient and empathetic ear to anyone and everyone who feels weighed down by some or the other issue in life.
And let me also take a bit of self-obsessed pride in the fact that my advice and reality check lectures have worked for many people.
A few days ago, while reading the drab newspaper, my mind drifted to the various problems that my friends, cousins and even random people share with me. They cover a wide range of issues, from career-related dilemmas to family problems to relationship issues to minor and major health-related concerns.
To my great surprise, all of them had a common pattern and connection, regardless of what problem they were facing.
What struck me was how emotionally and behaviourally fragile millennials are in terms of handling their life problems.
I agree that each one’s problem is big in his/her eyes, yet I feel that there is a certain amount of necessary vigour and strength our generation lacks.
Here are the reasons I deduced for our generation breaking so easily under the slightest amount of pressure:
We Don’t Know What Real Problems Are:
Many people slip into an emotional frenzy at the slightest of problems. Having an argument with a loved one, getting low marks on an assignment, reprimands from parents, etc. We tend to magnify these trivial occurrences in our heads and then view them as major issues to be sorted.
I then feel that our previous generations are not bluffing when they say, “Hame tumse zyada experience hai.” They indeed are double, maybe more our ages and have surely battled greater problems than the ones we lament about.
Thus they know what real problems indeed are and do not crib about the smaller turbulences as we do.
Not Having Known Greater Struggles:
This might sound like the above point but it isn’t so. We are accustomed to having been given everything on a platter. From the instant Maggi to the food we order online, to taking the elevator to save a few steps, to just copy-pasting our assignments when we are too lazy to write one.
Everything is just a click away.
Technology has made our lives so easy that we have almost become appendages of these gadgets. A day without our phones or microwave or Uber or Zomato feels paralysing.
I read once that our former PM Shastri-ji used to tie his books on his head and go to school due to lack of transportation. How many of us would not get panicky if told to walk to college or even the nearest market?
We’re The WhatsApp And FB Messenger Generation:
My parents often tell me how much they dislike WhatsApp and instant messaging sites like Instagram and Facebook. The reason being, that they give us an easy escape from making calls or meeting people face-to-face. Just drop a birthday or anniversary wish on text, with few cheesy emoticons and that does it all.
Similarly, breaking relationships has been made so convenient in this generation. So many youngsters are taking to just texts for breaking up as it saves the efforts of facing the other person and owning to the consequences of your actions. Feel suffocated or falling out of love, just say it over text.
Vanity And Shrugging Off Responsibility Of Our Actions
You might or might not agree with me, but I feel that our generation is increasingly becoming vain. We often feel that we know the best for ourselves and that those who advise us don’t make much sense as they haven’t been in our shoes.
Then, we very easily turn away from our actions. Something turns sour or goes south; we are ever ready to blame it on external factors. It is tough to accept our follies and running away from the havoc we create is an easier option.
To sum up, our confident and progressive millennials need to look inwards and work on their mental and emotional development.
Besides, every problem does have a solution and things are often better in real than our hyped imagination. Assessing the problem at hand and its possible consequences would be better than sulking about them.
And befriending our own selves is one thing we need to do, as we are our own encouragement and support system in tackling any issue at hand!
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