Moving out sounds super fun right? New beginnings with new people and new place, cute right? Well, No! As appealing as the idea of moving out is, in reality it is very stressful.
Leaving a familiar atmosphere (most of the times, your family) and adjusting, coping with a completely new one is extremely hard.
I moved out when I was 18 and have been to quite a few places. So, I feel obliged to somehow help younglings. Here are some situations you should expect and actually useful tips to handle whatever hurdle comes your way.
Find an authentic and hygienic place to live
First and foremost, you need to be serious about the place you want to live in. This place will be your second home for a long time. Try to avoid brokers as much as possible.
Apart from relatives and friends, you can find great apartments via MagicBricks, 99acres, Quikr and such websites.
ALWAYS go and inspect the place for yourself and take someone (preferably with previous experience) with you for safety and advices. Talk to the ones staying there, if you can. They will tell you the reality better than the house/PG owner.
Be prepared for the responsibilities
Moving out means you MUST deal with everything yourself! Be it doing the dishes, washing clothes, going grocery shopping etc. Even the trivial things, will seem a big hurdle to you!
Till now, you were more or less accustomed with everything being done by your parents. But now this bundle of responsibility and the need for “adulting” will seem like an added burden. Be prepared to face it.
When we live under the wings of our parents or guardian, money seldom seems like a problem to us because they always provide us with the best they can.
Sometimes, we even shout at them for not “providing enough”. As soon as you start living on your own, you are the one who will manage your finances and make your budget.
Flatmates – Trouble in Your Space
Always try to maintain a good relationship with your flatmates/ roommates. If you have a sibling, you will understand the concept of “sharing and caring” but if you are not familiar with “sharing”, it may get a bit problematic for you at the beginning.
Stuff like paying bills on time, doing the housework together, and lifestyle incompatibilities (such as a non-smoker flatting with a smoker) may result in arguments.
These are some potential things you need to worry about when you move out and into a new space. After making you question whether you should move or not (you definitely should if you like it), here are some useful tips to make life a little better:
Communication is the key
I can’t stress this enough but communication does solve a lot of problems like misunderstandings, hostilities and arguments. Talk openly and respectfully about your concerns with flatmates, owner and parents and make sure you’re being open to their point of view too.
Explore your locality
Your locality will leave a lasting impression on you, no matter how long you stay there. Explore it with a friend or your roommate. It’ll help you with learning the nooks and crannies of every corner, saving you from a lot of troubles in future.
Install helpful apps
When moving to a new city, you must install Google maps and Uber for transportation. For the food, there are multiple apps like Zomato, Swiggy, UberEats. They’ll help you and you’ll know the ways eventually.
Ask around for help
Never shy away from asking for help if you are lost. People are helpful generally. If you don’t know whom to ask, ask the shopkeepers, they generally always know the area.
If your parents don’t like your flatmate(s), find out the reason why they don’t. Usually the behaviour rather than the person causes offence.
Out of respect for your parents, ask your flatmate(s) to be on their best behaviour when your parents visit and do the same for them. If you have a problem with anyone’s demeanour, address them directly. Keep your belongings safe always.
Write down some crucial details
Keep some numbers like the Emergency number (112) for immediate assistance services from police (100), fire (101), health (108) and women (1090). Save them in your speed dial along with your parents’ and confidants’ number.
In a new city, it is okay to get lost in the crowd. You will need some time to find your roots and a sense of belonging. But you will eventually find it.
It will always get better. Living away will put a lot of things in perspective for you. You will learn to appreciate your parents.You will learn how to function properly as an adult and become truly independent in the process.
Sources – Economic Times
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